Jealousy on Social Media

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“Most people on social media present the “best version” of who they are. Nobody really shares their darkest moments or the many hardships people go through. It gives the illusion that their life is “perfect” when in reality we all go through things that challenge us to do and become better.

Comparing your life to others has become so easy, a simple click that makes you feel like you’re not good enough, you’re not having as much fun, or your life might be boring. All of this comparison actually affects your self-esteem and confidence level. You lower your ability to grow, because you shun yourself.”

~Quoted from @idillionaire

The best and the worst moments of my life don’t make it to social media. What I post is honest, what interests me, and pieces of who I really am. I am frankly being myself.

I don’t always broadcast every high and hide every low. I’m trying to live. I’m not trying to convince the world I have a life.

The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.

Stay low key. Not every part of your private life, needs to be public. Being humble shows how confident you are, bragging only shows how insecure you pretend not to be.

Not everyone needs to know everything about you. Every little detail of you. Only a few people care. The rest are just curious.

An insecure person seeks constant reassurance that he or she is beautiful, valued and loved. This is why you find insecure people to be such attention seekers. They are looking for validation that they are acceptable as they are.

Set yourself free. Create a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside. Jealousy is a lack of self-confidence. It is unfair to you. You only have one life, make yourself proud.

Don’t worry about what other people think. It’s your life. We only get one incredibly short human life and it’s up to us to make it the happiest we can.

Don’t always trust what you see, even salt looks like sugar. No one’s life is as perfect as their social media feed . Even mine.

Celebrate your life. Try to enjoy and live it at its best. Having a real life doesn’t mean we must cut ourselves off from the virtual society. We just have to wisely choose which one we announce to public, and which one we should keep privately ours. We just don’t have to post it to prove it.

Like a saying… In a world where everyone is overexposed, the coolest thing you can do is maintain your mystery.

Another great quote from relevantmagazines.com :

“And on the days when you peer into the screen of your laptop and all you see are other people’s peak experiences that highlight your lack in that moment, remember that life isn’t about the story you tell about yourself on the Internet.

It’s about a million more beautiful and complex things than that, like love and faith and really listening. It’s about using what you’ve been given to craft a life of gratitude and passion and grace.

Remember that the very best things in life can’t be captured in status updates.”

 ~ Jakarta, September 2016.. a moment of silence when I found this topic on Pinterest.

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Mengapa Harus Selektif Memilih Teman?

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“Pilah-pilih teman? Sombong amat, memang situ yakin udah lebih baik dari mereka?”

That’s what some people said. Well, I just smiled anyway.

In my opinion, jika tidak pilah pilih teman dalam muamalah urusan dunia, maka laa ba’sa, tidak mengapa. Kaya miskin, anak pejabat dan anak rakyat jelata di mata kita harusnya sama saja. Manusia tidak dilihat dari derajat dan kedudukan dunianya.

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‘Relationship Goals’ Menurut Mereka

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Rasanya miris banget lihat kelakuan anak-anak abege tanggung plus abege tua jaman sekarang di medsos, especially IG. Nggak malu-malu lagi kissing, necking, making out di sembarang tempat.

Di public space, kamar, kolam renang, lantas diunggah di akun mereka. Privacynya disetting public pula. Semua orang bisa lihat dan berkomentar.

Yang lebih ngenes lagi, baca komennya dedek-dedek yang baru ‘meletek’ kemaren sore macam ini,

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Ekspresi

i love writing

Tiap orang memiliki cara tersendiri untuk mengekspresikan perasaannya.

Ada yang curhat sama teman selama berjam-jam.

Ada yang mojok bisik-bisik tetangga.

Ada yang diem aja di kamar, doing absolutely nothing.

Ada yang langsung lari ke cemilan.😛

Ada yang menghabiskan waktu dengan marathon baca buku atau nonton film kesukaan sebanyak-banyaknya.

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