S for the Soul

Fake People vs Real People


“Sometimes it’s not the people who change, it’s the mask that falls of.” ~Unknown

Years pass, things change, people come and go. Time will reveal, who is fake and who is real, in life, and love. Waktu, kebenaran dan kesulitan hidup adalah ujian persahabatan yang sesungguhnya.

There are certain people, maybe only a few people who successfully pass the test. Well, that’s life. Inilah hidup, penuh dinamika. People come, people leave. We cannot ask them to stay, if they don’t want to.

Appreciate the ones who choose to be on your side when no one else did. Hargai mereka yang tetap tinggal di sisi kita setelah semua kesulitan yang melanda hidup, karena menemukan orang-orang seperti mereka, tidaklah mudah.

Yang ingin membersamai kita dalam kesenangan sangatlah banyak. Namun, yang selalu setia mendampingi dalam ups and downs hari-hari kita, pahit getirnya takdir kita, mungkin hanya bisa dihitung dengan jari.

So never let them go. Jangan pernah menyia-nyiakan, melupakan, mengganti posisi mereka di hati kita, simply because, we think.. we just don’t need them anymore. Karena jiwa-jiwa yang tulus seperti mereka, sangat langka adanya.

Belum tentu kelak kita akan menemukannya kembali di episode kehidupan kita selanjutnya. So appreciate what you have now, before it’s too late.

“Fake people are no different than shadows, they stick around during your brightest moments, but disappear during your darkest hours” ~Unknown

Some people leave scars and bruises to our life. They deceive us, they cheat on us, they backstabbing us and let us down so many times. We forgive them, accept them. And they do it all again. Without even asking forgiveness or giving excuses. No remorse at all.

And we keep questioning, “Do they deserve a second chance? Should I forgive them?”

My personal answer is, “No”.

Even if you decide to forgive them, to make peace with yourself, I think there are two kind of forgiveness:

  1. The kind that when you forgive you are also giving them a second chance,
  2. The kind when you forgive, you move on without them. They no longer belong in your life.

Choose and use them both wisely. Because forgiving is not forgetting. It’s letting go of the hurt.

Memaafkan tidak selalu berarti kesediaan untuk menerima kembali dan memberi kesempatan kedua. Ada orang-orang yang cukup mengisi masa lalu kita, tanpa perlu hadir kembali di masa yang akan datang. Those people aren’t worth any sort of our valueable time.

Terlebih jika soal kepercayaan yang disalahgunakan. Pengkhianatan dan hilangnya kesetiaan. Trust is like a mirror. Once it broken it can be fixed, but you can still see the cracks.

It’s always sad when you discover the people you thought had your back, really just want to stab you in it. But in life, we meet people for a reason, either they’re a blessing or a lesson, don’t we?

Fake people have an image to maintain. Real people just don’t care. Talking about fake people, here is a little description about them from elitedaily.com below..

“You remember them as you think back, and can recall all those moments they enticed you with their open arms and big hellos.

They were just so nice that you figured they were going to be your friends. But they weren’t. They were just extending an olive branch for moment, teasing you with it.

You must be careful of fake people. They have their own hidden agenda, an agenda hidden far beyond. They are a sleazy little pawn in their own game of life and they will try to use you to advance themselves in this rat race to nowhere.

They will be these amazing people for week, a month, (hopefully you didn’t keep them around longer than a year, but it happens) and then they show themselves, their true ugly selves.

You see them as they tried to use you, see your small state in their grand play and you fall to the wayside, when you thought you were just confiding in someone good, someone genuine.”

Some people don’t change, they just become a clearer version of who they really are.

Real situations always expose fake, hypocrite people. They eventually show their true colors. Suatu saat nanti, atau mungkin kini.. Allah akan pisahkan kita dengan mereka yang palsu cinta dan ketulusannya. Topeng yang mereka kenakan akan terbuka, dan menunjukkan siapa aslinya mereka.

People who only use us.

People who keep secrets and play games.

People who come to us only when they need us.

People who put a smile in their faces but talk about us behind our backs.

People who just pretended to be our friends, but really weren’t there when it came down to it.

People who hug us tighter, so they can stab us deeper.

Time will tell, my friend. Who stays real, and who secretly fake. Who says anything they need to say straightforwardly to us, and who always talks behind our backs. Who is sincere, who is only taking advantages from us.

The best way to deal with fake people is to be real with them. I’d rather have an enemy who admits they hate me, instead of a friend who secretly puts me down. Becareful of who you trust, not everyone who smiles at you is your friend 🙂

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.” ~Unknown

Scars fade with time. And the ones that never go away, well, they build character, maturity, caution. And I believe, the people who are meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you, no matter how far they wander.

You don’t lose friends, because real friends can never be lost. You lose people masquerading as friends, and you’re better for it.

Thank you for being here when no one else did, dear beautiful souls ❤

~ One serene morning at the east side of Jakarta.. September 2015

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4 thoughts on “Fake People vs Real People

  1. Seseorang berkata kpd sayyidina Ali bin Abi Thalib ra;
    “Ya Ali, kulihat sahabat-2 mu begitu setia sehingga mrk banyak sekali. Brp bnyk kah sahabat mu itu?

    Sayyidina Ali menjawab;
    “Nanti akan kuhitung setelah aku tertimpa musibah”

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