In life, I meet many different types of people. Some real, some fake. Some strong, some weak. Some clever, some brainless. Some sincere, some hypocritical. Some humble, some conceited. Some rude, some well-mannered.
But there is always one type of person who fascinates me the most: the brave and courageous one.
I do admire people with guts. People who are not afraid to stand out in the crowd. People who speak their minds aloud without hesitation. People who proudly be themselves. People who dare to be different, in a good way.
“It takes nothing to join the crowd. It takes everything to stand alone.”
I met some of them in person. Beberapa dari mereka adalah sahabat-sahabat terbaik saya. Para pejuang hidup yang pemberani. And I’m grateful to have them in my life.
Orang-orang pemberani adalah satu dari sekian banyak tipe manusia yang menginsipirasi saya dalam banyak hal. Mereka memberi dorongan kekuatan dalam mengatasi rasa takut. They encourage me to do the things I afraid the most.
To my eyes, brave men are great. But brave women are superb. Di tengah sifat khas perempuan yang lemah lembut dan cenderung ‘nrimo’, mereka tampil sebagai pribadi yang tangguh dan pemberani.
And when a brave man meets a brave woman, that was a lethal combination 😉
To be the one alone, takes courage
Berani di sini, adalah berani dalam kebenaran. Kebenaran yang sifatnya mutlak dan hakiki, bukan kebenaran standar manusia yang nisbi.
Berani menyuarakan kebenaran.
Berani bangkit dari keterpurukan.
Berani melawan dan berjuang.
Berani untuk tetap tegar berdiri, meski hanya seorang diri.
Berani tampil apa adanya menjadi diri sendiri, meski orang lain tidak suka. Karena manusia tidak diciptakan untuk menggapai ridha seluruh manusia di dunia.
Menjadi seorang pemberani, bukanlah tanpa resiko. Banyak yang harus dipertaruhkan. Memperjuangkan kebenaran di tengah kebisuan, harganya setara dengan nyawa dan kehormatan.
They called them the rebels. The troublemakers. The misfits. The provocateurs.
People are mocking them. Throwing rocks at them. Ridiculing them. Labelling them. Bullying them. Blaming and accusing them for the things they didn’t do.
Don’t be surprised. That’s how some human used to treat another human who are totally different with them. They simply just can’t accept that.
Some people just cannot handle the truth
“Menegakkan al-haq memang besar resikonya. Karena dalam al Qur’an sendiri disebutkan, ‘Kebanyakan manusia benci kepada kebenaran’.” ~ My Beloved Mum
Ada orang-orang yang tak terbiasa dengan kebenaran. Tak terbiasa mendengar kebenaran. Tak terbiasa menyuarakan kebenaran. Tak terbiasa memperjuangkan kebenaran. Tak terbiasa hidup dalam kebenaran.
Then what kind of life do they have? I wonder… A lot.
Some of my close friends have crossed that path. They have treated unfairly. Mereka dijauhi, dilabeli ini itu, dicemooh, difitnah, dibully, kehormatan dan nama baik mereka dirusak, diperlakukan tidak adil.
At first they felt devastated. Their confidence destroyed. Their souls shattered. They even uncertain about their own sanity. Just because people keep telling those judgements upon them.
Then what did they do? At first they kept listening to what people said.
Then they started to wonder..
“Am I right? Am I doing right? Am I on the right track?”
They often asked themselves,
“Am I out of my mind? Am I insane, just like what they said?”
They began to doubt their inner voices, they began to inquire their own decisions, they began to lose themselves.
Then pain after pain, after all adversities and difficulties.. They have totally changed. They transformed into a new shape—into a better version of themselves.
Stronger than before
“The human heart is made from the only substance in the universe that can become stronger, after it’s been broken.”
They became STRONGER. Emotionally. Not easily bend and broken anymore. Like a saying,
“People mature with the damage, not the years”.
Some say, what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. That’s true enough. They keep going stronger. Their skins became thicker. Their minds became wiser. They became way much smarter.
They know the best way to deal with people. And especially, ‘that kind of people’.
People who dislike them. People who envy them because they are one step ahead before them. People who keep harassing them. People who feel intimidated by them. People who deep inside, have fear of them.
Shake It Off!
“If someone says bad things about us, we feel bad. If someone says good things about us, we feel good. The question is: Have we given our remote control to others?”
In life, we can’t control what people may think, say or do. The only thing we can control is our reaction to that. You can either let it get to you, or you just shake it off.
Here are some advice to standing-out people like you, them, or maybe like.. me?
- Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.
- Never apologize for having high standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise up to meet them.
- Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. Know how to stand tall and raise your heads and voices among the others.
- Keep walking, keep running, whatever people may think, say, or do. Be determined that your goals are not about pleasing human anymore. It is for a higher purpose.
- You have learnt so much lessons in pain. How to endure and survive after the storm, even with scars all over your body and holes in your soul. You rise and you shine.
- Prepare yourself to become somebody new, someone far better than you were before.
We all have special capabilities, we all have greatness within us, but sometimes we need extra push to pull out the brave that lie inside us all. When problems come your way, be thankful and stay calm for it only makes you a better and stronger person!
Thanks for making me a fighter!
In the end, they just wanna thank all the people who bring them to this kind of state.
People who mock them, just to help them elevate and fly higher.
People who call them loser, just to turn them out to be a strong fighter.
Bravo to you, brave people with powerful voices and unbreakable minds!
You never fail to enchant my soul. The spirits in your stories made me wanna jump higher.
May Allah always keep you strong and firm on the right path. Love you for the sake of Allah ❤
—Jakarta, on a bright and sunny morning of March 2016..
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