It Hurts, Because It Mattered


“The good times and the bad times both will pass. It will pass. It will get easier. But the fact that it will get easier does not mean that it doesn’t hurt now.

And when people try to mini­mize your pain they are doing you a disservice. And when you try to minimize your own pain you’re doing yourself a disser­vice.

Don’t do that.

The truth is that it hurts because it’s real. It hurts because it mattered. And that’s an important thing to acknowledge to yourself.

But that doesn’t mean that it won’t end, that it won’t get better. Because it will.”

—John Green

People say ironically, “Enjoy the sadness while you can, because it won’t last”.

At first I didn’t get it. How could we enjoy something which our hearts grieved over?

And when the sadness was coming over me one day, I did it. I chose to feel that pain through my skin. I sunk deep enough until I didn’t realize how long it was.

I didn’t rush myself to heal all those broken pieces. I got hurt. I cried. I suffered. Those uneasy and difficult moments I think I’ll never get over.

I later realized.. Life is not a series of meaningless accidents. I know this is just a part of life I must going through. I crossed this path for a reason. A reason why I am here today. To be stronger than before.

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief, and unspeakable love.”

Yes, it hurts, because it mattered. Because it means too much to us. Because this is just another test in life which we shall pass. And we will pass, insha Allah.

Allah knows that we can handle this. Allah knows that we’re capable of carrying those burdens.

So who are we to say no when He said yes? Who are we to think that we can’t when He knew that we can?

The biggest lesson we’ve learned is, “It’s okay.”

It’s okay for us to be kind to ourselves. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to shed these tears. It’s okay to get mad. It’s okay to be flawed. It’s okay to be imperfect.

It’s okay to be happy. It’s okay to start a brand new life and turn the page into another chapter. It’s okay to move on.

~ Jakarta, on a still and memorable night of April 2016.. Truly dedicated for someone special out there ❤


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6 thoughts on “It Hurts, Because It Mattered

  1. Sesuatu yang menyakitkan itu suatu saat bisa menjadi sesuatu yang paling dirindukan, dan kadang bisa tersenyum senyum saat mengingatnya. Sebab tanpa disadari sesuatu yang rasanya pahit itu ternyata obat ^^ atau vaksin supaya kedepannya lebih strong. Hehee


    • You’re very welcome, Umm.. I wrote this for anyone who is in despair, who grieve over a loss. I want to tell them, “Do not lose hope, Allah is surely with us”.

      Waiyyaki 🙂


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