Living The Life You Love

Dulu, jaman baru kenal internet, baru punya akun sosmed, baru punya teman-teman di dunia virtual..

Segala apa aja dishare. Tiap singgah ke suatu tempat, langsung check in. Tiap makan sesuatu, langsung cekrek cekrek, upload. Tiap mau ngapain, “laporan” dulu sama temen-temen di sosmed. Tiap ada yang request as friend, main terima aja tanpa pikir panjang.

Hal-hal nggak penting pun diposting. Apapun yang lagi dirasain, langsung posting. Anak udah bisa ini itu, share ke sosmed. Jalan-jalan ke spot anu, apdet status. Lagi sendirian di rumah, semua orang tahu. Tahu darimana? Dari status sosmed, dong.

All those unnecessary things I should have keep private.

Tiap ada sesuatu yang hot dan jadi trending topic, langsung auto latah. Ikut-ikutan share tanpa cek ricek lebih dulu. Tiap ada yang nyenggol, langsung balik bereaksi. Tiap ada yang nyindir, langsung nyindir balik.

A few years later….

Kini, hanya sebagian saja dari keseharian yang sengaja saya bagikan di sosmed. Hanya sebagian kecil, lebih tepatnya.

Saya, tipe netijen yang tadinya apa-apa dijadiin status atau twit, yang tadinya apa-apa dikomentarin, kini jauh berbeda dengan saya yang dulu.

Yang temenan sama saya di sosmed sejak jaman baheula pasti sadar akan perubahan ini. Apalagi yang follow saya di Twitter, dengan segala keabsurdan saya kala itu. Ahahaha.

I didn’t remember exactly when I feel this way. Saya yang tadinya extrovert abisss di sosial media, jadi lebih selektif dan tertutup ketika berkaitan dengan kehidupan pribadi. Become more private and introvert? Guess so.

I keep most of my personal things, just for me and the trusted people around me. I become more careful in sharing the detail of my daily life.

It’s not a secret, but it’s not other people’s bussiness either. It’s just a private life, not a secret one.

Don’t know why but I just realized.. I’m too old for this. Too lazy for craving any attention, too tired of those toxic and passive aggressive people, too fed up of any unnecessary drama.

Saya cuma ngerasa, udah umur segini.. All I really want is peace. Kedamaian. Cinta. Hidup yang tenang, jauh dari hal-hal penguras energi dan waktu yang nggak ada gunanya. Menikmati hari-hari bersama mereka yang sangat berarti, yang mencintai saya apa adanya.

Saya nggak butuh jadi the center of attention, nggak butuh dikagumi orang banyak, nggak butuh jadi yang “paling” dan “ter…” di antara circle pertemanan, nggak butuh puja-puji dari orang lain untuk terlihat outstanding.

At this very moment, I think I have found what I’m looking for. Viewing life from a totally different perspective.

I always treasure simple moments like sitting in the couch, sipping a cup of tea and having a good book in my hand, doing the things I love, or surrounding myself with the people who truly know and understand me the way nobody else does.

Buat saya.. Udah nggak jamannya envy atau bersaing dalam hal-hal duniawi yang nggak dibawa mati. Selain karena saya sendiri memang tipe orang yang nggak gampang baperan apalagi hobi bersaing, ya karena bagi saya hal seperti itu memang (sangat) nggak penting untuk dijadikan ajang kompetisi.

Udah nggak jamannya menghabiskan waktu untuk selalu tampil “sempurna” di hadapan orang lain, atau hidup hanya untuk memikirkan penilaian mereka. Orang lain mau menilai kita seperti apa, selama kita tidak berbuat sesuatu yang salah atau melanggar aturan.. Maka ketahuilah, itu sama sekali bukan urusan kita.

Just like a saying, “If you know yourself, you’ll not be harmed by what is said about you.”

Udah nggak jamannya larut dalam perdebatan tanpa ujung, atau gampang terpancing untuk ribut dan gontok-gontokan. Hal-hal yang sejatinya cuma wasting time dan energy, nggak seharusnya jadi prioritas utama apalagi sampai merenggut kewarasan jiwa.

Nggak semua hal harus dikomentari, nggak semua pertanyaan harus dijawab, nggak semua argumentasi harus dipatahkan, nggak semua perdebatan harus dimenangkan. We can agree to disagree, and remain respectful.

Staying quiet doesn’t mean you have nothing to say. Often the most powerful statement is your dignified silence.

“Many people don’t know this, but it’s possible to read something you don’t agree with on the internet and simply move on with your life.” ~Unknown

Life is about choice. Ada hal-hal yang harus diubah dan dikorbankan untuk menggapai apa yang kita inginkan. The only thing you deserve is what you earn.

Edit your life the way you want it to be. Remove anything that could disturb your inner peace and bravely set the boundaries. Never settle for anything less than you deserve.

Life is too short for any long useless battle, pointless drama or victim players. I decide to unsubscribe myself from unimportant issues so I can embrace life without any doubt and negativity.

I decide to cut off certain people and minimize my circle so I can be with people I only choose to be. Regularly edit my friendlist, unfollow some people in social media and real life. Clean and sober from any toxic relationship.

You are the architect of your life. Allah has given you permission and ability to design, edit and change yourself and your future, to be the best version you could ever be. Your life, it’s your masterpiece, after all.

You have the freedom to write your own story, so never allow others holding the pen. You have the chance and power to start over, walking away from the people and things that keep weighing you down instead of lifting you up.

“To find peace, you have to be willing to lose your connection with the people, places, and things that create all the noise in your life.” ~Unknown

Don’t sweat for any small stuffs or fight over something that never worth it. Don’t let those little things take over your life, and ruin your soul. Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive.

In the end, it’s just like what people say: be selective with your battle, sometimes peace is better than being right 😊

~ Jakarta, May 2018.. start living the life you love in the most possible way.

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