Leaving a Toxic and Abusive Relationship

“Self love is so important. Because when you’re all alone and it’s 3 in the morning and you’re lying on the floor crying and shaking and wishing it all would end, who’s going to be there for you? You. You have to pick yourself up and find the strength to carry on. At the end of the day, you’re all you’ve got.” —Unknown

In a good and healthy relationship, there is a feeling about being safe, secure, and convenient. An undefined connection. Ada rasa aman, nyaman juga kedekatan yang tidak terjelaskan. Someone who feels like home.

We don’t need to put a mask or fake a smile. We mean what we say. We can be ourselves, inside and out. We are sincere and honest with our feelings. We are not afraid to express our emotions, what bother our minds, without any hesitation.

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In This Stage of Life…

This stage of life. It’s hard, you guys.

I’m talking right now to you moms who are in your late 20’s to early/mid 30’s. You have kids. Likely two, three, maybe four of them. They probably range in age from newborns to 7 or 8 year-olds. Give or take a few years.

In this stage of life, you are dealing with exhaustion. Mental, physical, and emotional.

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Authenticity, Journey and Competition

“I wasn’t born to follow and I’m not sure if I was born to lead, but what I’m certain is that I was born to fight my way through life and win.” —Unknown

Semalam saat tengah bersiap untuk merajut bulu mata aka merem, ada satu pesan masuk di Messenger saya. Dari teman FB sekaligus customer setia Zafra sejak awal buka sampai saat ini.

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Life After the Wedding Day

“When nikah becomes expensive, zina becomes cheap, so keep weddings as simple and affordable as possible.” ~ Dr. Bilal Philips

A long time ago, I knew this old friend of mine. Saat kami pertama kali berkenalan, teman saya itu, sebut saja namanya A, masih single. Tak lama kemudian ia menikah. Saya pun mulai mengikuti episode hidupnya yang baru, walau hanya melalui jendela sosial media. Dari mulai prosesi persiapan pernikahan, her big day, sampai honeymoon.

Teman saya itu menikah dengan laki-laki yang sangat berkecukupan dalam masalah materi. Pesta pernikahannya terhitung megah. Makanan berlimpah, dekorasi mewah, souvenir mahal, gaun yang menawan. Banyak mengundang decak kagum para tamu. Tak lama, mereka honeymoon ke salah satu tempat yang cukup romantis dan terkenal. Yang pastinya, memakan biaya yang tidak bisa dibilang sedikit.

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Shine Your Own Light!

Mengutip tulisan orang lain tanpa menyebutkan sumber, lantas menyertakan nama kita di bawahnya seolah kita yang menulisnya adalah sebuah kejahatan. Kejahatan bernama plagiarisme.

Tidak hanya satu dua tulisan tapi banyak. Tidak hanya sekali dua kali tapi sering.

Kata-katanya diubah sedikit, agar tidak sama persis. Tapi seseorang yang berkecimpung di dunia tulis menulis pasti jeli, pasti bisa menyimpulkan, meski banyak edit di sana sini sejujurnya ini adalah tulisan yang sama.

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